Strangely, in Nigeria most couples just go over a wedding night without really experiencing the thrills and fun it should come with, well, good thing is times are changing and so are trends, so as part of your wedding plans you should include plans for your wedding night and of course*winks* your wedding bed.
Here are some tips for the ladies:
Get a good hotel and be sure that they'll let you add some aesthetics to your room.
Find a good blend of your favourite colors and decorate your bed, adding flowers and candles are not out of place, because years down the line, you'll discover you had a blast of a wedding night.
The truth is guys couldn't really be bothered how good
the bed looks even though they like clean sheets, all they
want to do is rest and ermmmm *clearingmythroat* so Gurl!
just spice it up and make your night so romantic.
Find dim lights and make sure the room is perfumed.
Take every distraction away eg phones, tablets etc and enjoy
your FIRST NIGHT together.
Remember ITS YOUR FIRST NIGHT WITH THE SPOUSE
YOU ALWAYS LOVED TO BE WITH.
Have fun Gurls!!!!!!
But with time and situation and divine intervention, I came to quickly
understand there is a huge difference between a Dream Wedding & a
Wedding of Realities and I have several reasons why I am grateful that I
experienced the latter. I’m not saying you can’t have your Dream
Wedding, if you have all the resources to do it, go ahead! Like it’s
commonly said “It’s Your Big Day”! So if you decide to pull out all the
stops in a bid to make your wedding the talk of the town- as long as you
have to cash to throw around like politicians are wont to doing, then
ride hard boy! Ride hard!
From my first and obviously last
wedding experience (except for the stress I will need to go through for a
close friend or my children/grand children’s wedding), I quickly came to
certain strong conclusions which I chose to share with you in this
article. Chief among all my discoveries about the 21st Century weddings
is that most couples (especially the brides and the families of both
Bride & Groom) take the pains to organize huge and expensive
weddings is because of status & public impression i.e. What will
people say? And that is the greatest killer of good marriages.
Parents
try to impress the members of their local church, club or Association,
Political group, Village and peer group or business associates with
especially lavish receptions in a bid to keep tongues wagging for a
while with discussions like “Were you at Doctor So-So & So’s Son’s
Wedding? Hmmm! You missed O!” And as the parents try to outdo each
other, the couples labor to impress the massively expanding online
community of wedding bloggers and friends on Photo-based Social Media
Apps like Instagram & Facebook. If you think it’s a lie, ask the top
photographers what they charge simply for pre-wedding photos which
couples today see as a must. The very idea of taking trips to exotic
locations just to shoot pictures that will be posted online before the
wedding itself really baffles me.
What does it actually do for
the marriage except for elicit the usual and mostly cosmetic “Awww, cute
couple” comments and the likes they get on Facebook/Instagram that’s
all!
Here are 10 reasons why I think your wedding should be just like mine!
- THE
RIGHT SPOUSE/FAMILY MAKES THE WORST WEDDING WORTH IT When you consider
the fact that (for some pentecostal Christians) you have 3 weddings to
undergo i.e. Traditional, Court & Church wedding and all the stress
associated with organizing and getting money and people together. If
he/she doesn’t end up being the right person, you have just shot
yourself in the foot. My in-laws were and are simply great! They made it
less stressful for with everything and I mean EVERYTHING! If I were to
marry my wife again, I will choose my in-laws again and again. They just
simply lighted up the whole place. Jolly good fellas!
- A
WEDDING IS JUST FOR A DAY: Whether it’s a traditional, court, Nikkai or
Church wedding, its eventually going to end in a day and as a matter of
fact- a FEW HOURS! Whatever magic you want to do during your wedding or
whatever you are afraid of about your wedding, know this. It’s going to
end in a DAY! After that, it’s the start about marriage. Don’t invest
everything in your wedding and forget about the marriage.
- BUDGET!
BUDGET! BUDGET:Work your wedding around a shoestring budget and don’t
try to impress anybody. The lavish wedding you put together today may
make headlines today, but someone is sure to outdo you tomorrow, so
don’t even bother.
- WHO
INVENTED THE CONCEPT OF “COMMITTEE OF FRIENDS?”: Avoid this trap! It
never works. Most of the people you conscript into it don’t want to be
there and let’s face it, everyone has got things to do and money to
spend. What’s the point behind having extensive, purpose-less meetings
when they eventually come around to asking you what preparations you
have made. And don’t get me started on the contributions! Getting people
to pay up could be life-threatening literarily. So what’s the point?
Just get a few friends who could support you with the most they can and
don’t forget what we said in point No.3. Budget, Budget, Budget!
- BRIDAL
TRAIN IS A COMPLETE WASTE! SCRAP IT!: I should think in the old days,
the concept of bridal train which probably started off in the late 80s
was designed to include the best man, Chief bridesmaids and possibly a
sprinkling of some of the couples siblings and very close friends. And I
guess, seeing them walk along with them on the aisle had some emotional
significance at the time and added to that, they assisted a lot in
making sure the reception goes well. Well, those days they didn’t have
Facebook, Twitter & Instagram like we have today and most members of
bridal trains today won’t want to soil their nice outfits with food
stains or water while serving. Today’s wedding is all about looks and
perceptions. What’s important today is how the pictures look like
afterwards, so people go looking for models and hunks who don’t care
about you and were not too pleased about the stress of buying Aso-Ebis
and sewing but rather things that will make the couple look spectacular
only on that day. It’s all about Selfies & Photo-Albums for them.
Bullshit! Remember? Budget? My wedding had just two people besides us,
my best man & her maid of honor and they were people we really
respected and wanted to do the job for us. Less stress!
- FOOD
& DRINKS ARE THE MAIN THING. ANYTHING ELSE NA JARA!: Focus on
feeding people at your reception, and the people I am talking about are
the ones you budgeted for not the number of people you sent IVs to.
Because we all know that it’s not about the IVs you send to your
friends. Please avoid deceiving yourself that everyone has to eat at
your reception, because they DO NOT. It depends on your guest list,
invite a small number and feed them well. That’s what I did!
- A
RECEPTION IS A RECEPTION! GET THAT?: A reception is a reception and all
the waste of time we plan for during those moments is rubbish! Strike
off the unnecessary agenda you want to print. Infact don’t bother
printing anything because nobody is really interested in going through
all that. All they want to do is eat, wait and go away (perhaps drop a
gift on their way out). We had no set programme, no Chairman, No
Kolanuts, No Witnesses Around Cutting the Cake or Dance with the Father.
We just walked in leisurely and said hello to one or two people and
walked straight to our seat with EVERYBODY SEATED AND EATING. The rest
was Dance, Dance Dance! That was it!
- YOUNG PEOPLE DON’T BEAR GIFTS, DON’T EXPECT ANY:That explains itself.
- PAY UP VENDORS BEFORE OR DURING THE EVENT. DON’T BORROW, DON’T OWE!That explains itself too.
- DON’T
DEPEND ON ANYONE! THEY ARE LIABLE TO FAIL!: The ones you expect to help
most will fail you, 70% of the time. Help comes from people you don’t
expect and those are the kind God uses.
Post by Sammy Ajufo aka Supersam.
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